Arguing simply means defending yourself against the opponent.Usually, what happens is people raise their voices to win a battle of the war. Everyone thinks that a loud voice will bring victory to them. Sometimes, these arguments can lead to the innovation of new ideas. You don’t have to fight tooth and nail for something. The one important thing you have to keep in mind is to argue positively and with a soft voice. Never argue with others to win a battle, but to put forth your ideas. I won’t say, arguing is a bad thing. But, you should argue productively. Let us see how to argue productively.
It has to be well on time: Most often, people don’t want to argue with their own friends or colleagues and keep mum when it is the appropriate time to put forth an argument. As a result, the relationship sours leaving scars behind. If an argument is required to make things right, never hesitate to argue. It should be well on time. Later on, there will be no use trying to explain. If you have to be cantankerous at times, don’t hesitate to do it. Time lost is lost forever.
Listen carefully before arguing
All argue with the intention to win. Instead, keep your ears wide open to win an argument. This is easier than squabbling. Try to defuse an argument and make it a discussion. Discussions will fetch you good ideas and results. It will save your energy at the same time help to keep your mind cool. When you listen carefully, you will understand clearly what the problem is and where it is. This can be, to a great extent, used as a tool to explore many innovative ideas.
Let the other party also talk
Once you are done with your side of the argument, let the other party talk. This will help us to understand how such an argument arose. Let it be like a game wherein you wait for your next turn that will take you near victory. Keep patience and keep on playing. Either you win or understand your mistakes.
Talk only about what you want
Some people, even though, they have almost won an argument, keep on fighting. This is because they have only a vague or ill-defined aim as to what they want. First be clear as to what you want. Explain in clear words, what you expect from others. This will help others as well because there is no confusion as you have explained what you expect clearly.
Another person’s victory can be your success
If a situation demands you to lose in order that a good thing happens, this can also be a victory for you. You win despite losing an argument.
In short, arguments or counter arguments are not at all bad if you have to prove yourself right. But, you should never beat around the bush and shout at the top of your voice to get the victory. You can, sometimes use visuals to make your team members or opponent see what you really want to convey. This will bring about positive results.